Save Your Marriage

I have been impressed with the American Center for Law and Justice (ACLJ).  Please do not confuse this with the ACLU which is sometimes quite hostile toward Christianity and healthy moral and ethical standards.

The lawyers of the ACLJ fight for the rights of Christians.  And, this is great.  Still, some issues are more important than others, and to me the issues of homosexual marriage, cursing on the airwaves, or allowing children to share the Gospel in a valedictorian speach are important, but many of the problems the ACLJ are trying to solve could be addressed more effectively by a strong, effectual, courageous commitment to saving families of the faithful from being ransacked by unfaithful spouses and a renegade Family Law system.

If attention were given to this issue first, teen suicides would drop.  Adult suicides would drop.  Children and their faithful parents would not be deprived of their right to live together in love and peace enjoying the shared family assets just so an abusive or adulterous parent could live irresponsibly.

One one hand, if we don’t have organizations like the ACLJ, Christians would probably be suffering more with less protection than we currently have.  And, too many attorneys get rich ripping apart the families of small children and pimping for the unfaithful spouses.  At this time, the highest cause of the huge increase in military suicides is not the struggle of war but something much more gut wrenching and that is coming home from risking one’s life for one’s nation only to be robbed of home, marriage, children, possessions, and even one’s military pension.  This is no way to treat a soldier, and this is no way to treat those faithful civilians who honored their wedding vows.

I don’t think we have any right to stand against homosexual marriages unless we are willing to stand up for real marriages.  With the homosexual marriage, the binding nature of that kind of marriage can end up perhaps rightfully challenged given that a homosexual may repent and change beliefs and feel perhaps rightfully obligated to end the relationship while the heterosexual marriage could never encounter such a situation.  One’s obligation to one’s promises and one’s spouse and one’s family and one’s children and one’s society must always outweigh the lusts for infidelity.

To spend more on fighting homosexual marriage than saving heterosexual marriages is poor stewardship.  I would rather have a thousand homosexual marriages take place than to have one child grow up in a broken home unnecessarily because our charities were too busy fighting homosexuality to save real marriages.

I Corinthians 13 says that three things remain — faith, hope, and love, and the greatest of these is love.  Yet, we all need hope.

People often commit suicide for loss of hope.  Hope is a belief and a trust in future happiness, that things will work out for good.  When we choose to stare at the negative things in life and when we focus on all the evidence that things are horrible and will get worse, it is easy to lose hope and become depressed.  Often disappointments get our full attention when they are still fresh, open wounds.

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What do people do when their house is on fire?  Do they start rebuilding the house while it is still on fire?  No.  They rush to get everyone out of the house and call 911 immediately.  They might grab water hoses and buckets to put the fire out.  But nobody rebuilds while the fire is still raging.

But, when the fires of adultery hit our families, often we fail to put the fires out before going on with life or rebuilding. Read the rest of this entry »