Save Your Marriage

The best and most effective time to prevent a marriage crisis or divorce is before marriage.  These e-books help get newlyweds off to a great start.

50 Secrets of Blissful Relationships

This book often comes together with the sequel, 50 More Secrets of Blissful Relationships.  I printed these books off and read them.  I highly recommend reading them before marriage.

Proposals - Popping the Question

I got this book too late after I had already popped the question.  I got it as a part of the whole relationship collection.  (See it below.)  It’s worthwhile making your proposal a memorable moment for your loved one, and there is much wisdom in this book for keeping guys out of trouble and disappointment and embarassment.

1,000 Questions for Couples

When I see an order for this e-book come in, I feel happy.  I have mixed feelings when orders come in for an e-book that may help bring healing to a crisis situation in a marriage because it usually means a marriage is in trouble.  But, when someone buys this e-book, I know they are preparing in advance for a great marriage.  I feel that way about all the books on this page.

Michael Webb’s Whole Relationship Collection

This is the ultimate collection of relationship materials that includes the above materials and much, much more.  It covers everything about relationships from dating or courting to popping the question to romantic dates and advice on sex within marriage.  It covers the tragic situations that sometimes happen within marriage, too, such as affairs and divorce stopping and divorce recovery.

Pray, pray, pray - for your family and your marriage first of all, and those in your immediate family.

Set aside time with God to pray.  Be intimate with God in your heart.  Be open with Him about everything, your feelings, your thoughts, your difficulties, but also spend time thinking about the blessings that God brings to your life and your family even in the midst of the worst possible times and how He enables you to come through it victoriously. We don’t always come through victoriously, but we can if we will let God carry us through.

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Have you ever been nagged?  Did nagging ever make you feel motivated to get to your feet and launch into something with joy with all your heart and do excellently?

If so, you’re unusual.  Many people tolerate it or go along with it, but most people absolutely detest it.  And, yet so many people do it.  Why?

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I am not much of a TV person, but I enjoy seeing the news and programs related to world events. This morning I saw Helen Fisher being interviewed about her book on love addictions.

Fisher spoke of how this addiction can cause physical pain just like a drug addiction and how it is much more powerful than many other addictions in leading more people to do crazy things such as committing murder, suicide, acts of violence, driving crazy, alcohol and drug abuse, and exhibiting mental problems such as depression, loss of memory, dizziness, and other maladies.

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Have you noticed how often prophesies seem to be self-fulfilling?  That is rather than predict the future, they set the path of the future into place?

Have you noticed how well you can predict when your spouse will be nice and when he or she will misbehave?  Do you find yourself preparing yourself for the worst, preparing for battle, getting all your verbal weapons lined up and responses prepared so that you can respond to what your spouse is going to say before its finished being said?

And, what happens after that when you see your spouse?  Sparks fly?  If your spouse doesn’t start them, you start them just to make sure your spouse doesn’t get there first.  Or the look on your face and your body language and the tone of your voice sets your spouse off.  Perhaps there’s a silent treatment involved, or perhaps you think there is and don’t want to be oblivious.  But, you know there’s a fight coming, and soon you find you’re right.

Can I be blunt and honest about it?  That’s dumb.  But, we’ve probably all done it.

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If we want to drive the divorce statistics down, we need to turn outward and help that happen all around us.  So, here is the challenge for this week.

• Boycott Soap Operas
• Get the word out on this site and others like it.

Like pornography, people who waste hours each week on soap operas program their minds to react instinctively in ways that are destructive to a family, and we see the soap opera mentality transferred to our children.  We see it in their babysitters and we see it lived out in the lives of those around us.

Secondly, these web sites are not about a PhD in an office giving counseling or a divorce attorney, but these sites are about normal ordinary people who care and want to make a difference.  Some, like me, have gone through painful divorces and that has enabled us to understand others who go through the same pain.  We know about the injustices and the harm divorce does because we have experienced it first hand.

Some of the other web sites I have been working on have much more material and have been around a lot longer.

• www.nodivorces.org a news site
• www.no-divorces.org relationship help
• www.nodivorces.com the original No Divorces web site
• www.no-divorces.com a No Divorces blog site
• http://www.save-marriages.com/ an directory of marriage saving sites
• http://www.save-marriages.org/ a news site
• www.family-fanatics.com another pro-family activism site

Please link to these and consider putting your favorite into your email signature if you are interested in getting involved in this effort.

Thank you!!!

Daniel J. Dick
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Are you getting married soon?  If so, congratulations!!!

Here are some items that can help take a tremendous load of stress off the preparations and reduce costs!

Note:  The focus on this page is on preparing for the wedding ceremony rather than preparing for marriage which is even more important.

Planning Guide

The first thing you will need to do is to get or create a good wedding planning guide.  Couples are usually startled by all the details involved in planning a wedding, and too often couples become stressed unnecessarily.

Relax!!!  A good guide is vital to help reduce stress, reduce costs, and feel confident that nothing is being forgotten.  Enjoy the planning and enjoy the day and tell yourself no matter what, this marriage is a blessing and no goof-up will take your happiness away.

Here are some planning guides to help you get started:

• Insiders Secrets for Planning Weddings 
• Master Wedding Planning Guide
• Wedding Planning Secrets

There is no law that says you cannot have more than one planning guide or checklist and work two or three of them. The idea is to know what you’re doing and do it confidently with joy and without stress.

Wedding Vows

Sooner or later you will need to consider the vows or promises you will make to one another.  How do you want to say them?  Do you want to call on the couples in the congregation to renew the vows and repeat along with you?

Here are some guides to help you create your own vows or select vows you like.

• Ultimate Wedding Vow Toolkit
• 101 Wedding Vows
• Marriage Vows and Wedding Vows

Here’s a T-shirt and some clothing you may enjoy wearing to tell the world of your love and faithfulness: 

• Faithful to the Vows

What kind of theme do you want for your wedding?  Unsure?  Would you like some ideas to start the creative juices flowing through your minds?  Here is a good e-book to help you get started. 

• Wedding Themes and More

Speech!  Speech! 

Do speeches make you uneasy?  Are you nervous about what the best man or the maid of honor might say or how they might say it?  Here are some e-books that cover all types of wedding speeches and help bring confidence to those speaking! 

• All Types of Wedding Speeches
• The Wedding MC
• Wedding Speeches and Wedding Toasts

Personal Wedding Web Site 

I personally do not need this service because, well, I design my own web sites.  But, here is a company that specializes in personal wedding websites!

• Personal Wedding Websites