Save Your Marriage

Have you noticed how often prophesies seem to be self-fulfilling?  That is rather than predict the future, they set the path of the future into place?

Have you noticed how well you can predict when your spouse will be nice and when he or she will misbehave?  Do you find yourself preparing yourself for the worst, preparing for battle, getting all your verbal weapons lined up and responses prepared so that you can respond to what your spouse is going to say before its finished being said?

And, what happens after that when you see your spouse?  Sparks fly?  If your spouse doesn’t start them, you start them just to make sure your spouse doesn’t get there first.  Or the look on your face and your body language and the tone of your voice sets your spouse off.  Perhaps there’s a silent treatment involved, or perhaps you think there is and don’t want to be oblivious.  But, you know there’s a fight coming, and soon you find you’re right.

Can I be blunt and honest about it?  That’s dumb.  But, we’ve probably all done it.

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