Have you ever been nagged? Did nagging ever make you feel motivated to get to your feet and launch into something with joy with all your heart and do excellently?
If so, you’re unusual. Many people tolerate it or go along with it, but most people absolutely detest it. And, yet so many people do it. Why?
I am not much of a TV person, but I enjoy seeing the news and programs related to world events. This morning I saw Helen Fisher being interviewed about her book on love addictions.
Fisher spoke of how this addiction can cause physical pain just like a drug addiction and how it is much more powerful than many other addictions in leading more people to do crazy things such as committing murder, suicide, acts of violence, driving crazy, alcohol and drug abuse, and exhibiting mental problems such as depression, loss of memory, dizziness, and other maladies.
Pray, pray, pray - for your family and your marriage first of all, and those in your immediate family.
Set aside time with God to pray. Be intimate with God in your heart. Be open with Him about everything, your feelings, your thoughts, your difficulties, but also spend time thinking about the blessings that God brings to your life and your family even in the midst of the worst possible times and how He enables you to come through it victoriously. We don’t always come through victorously, but we can if we will let God carry us through.
Have you noticed how often prophesies seem to be self-fulfilling? That is rather than predict the future, they set the path of the future into place?
Have you noticed how well you can predict when your spouse will be nice and when he or she will misbehave? Do you find yourself preparing yourself for the worst, preparing for battle, getting all your verbal weapons lined up and responses prepared so that you can respond to what your spouse is going to say before its finished being said?
And, what happens after that when you see your spouse? Sparks fly? If your spouse doesn’t start them, you start them just to make sure your spouse doesn’t get there first. Or the look on your face and your body language and the tone of your voice sets your spouse off. Perhaps there’s a silent treatment involved, or perhaps you think there is and don’t want to be oblivious. But, you know there’s a fight coming, and soon you find you’re right.
Can I be blunt and honest about it? That’s dumb. But, we’ve probably all done it.
If we want to drive the divorce statistics down, we need to turn outward and help that happen all around us. So, here is the challenge for this week.
Like pornography, people who waste hours each week on soap operas program their minds to react instinctively in ways that are destructive to a family, and we see the soap opera mentality transferred to our children. We see it in their babysitters and we see it lived out in the lives of those around us.
Secondly, these web sites are not about a PhD in an office giving counseling or a divorce attorney, but these sites are about normal ordinary people who care and want to make a difference. Some, like me, have gone through painful divorces and that has enabled us to understand others who go through the same pain. We know about the injustices and the harm divorce does because we have experienced it first hand.
Some of the other web sites I have been working on have much more material and have been around a lot longer.
Please link to these and consider putting your favorite into your email signature if you are interested in getting involved in this effort.
Thank you!!!
Daniel J. Dick
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